I have a tonne of links in my bookmarks at work that I haven’t visited in a while. I spent a few minutes today perusing the ones I’d assigned to my Learning Styles folder when I came across an article outlining why it’s important for students to understand their professors learning styles and vice versa. From it, I followed a link to David Keirsey‘s work.
On his site, Mr. Keirsey has posted an article titled Different Drummers.
If I do not want what you want, please try not to tell me that my want is wrong.
Or if I believe other than you, at least pause before you correct my view.
Or if my emotion is less than yours, or more, given the same circumstances, try not to ask me to feel more strongly or weakly.
Or yet if I act, or fail to act, in the manner of your design for action, let me be.
I do not, for the moment at least, ask you to understand me. That will come only when you are willing to give up changing me into a copy of you.
I may be your spouse, your parent, your offsping, your friend, or your colleague. If you will allow me any of my own wants, or emotions, or beliefs, or actions, then you open yourself, so that some day these ways of mine might not seem so wrong, and might finally appear to you as right — for me. To put up with me is the first step to understanding me. Not that you embrace my ways as right for you, but that you are no longer irritated or disappointed with me for my seeming waywardness. And in understanding me you might come to prize my differences from you, and, far from seeking to change me, preserve and even nurture those differences. (Keirsey, 1998, Please Understand Me II)
These words describe exactly how I’m feeling at the moment. Unfortunately, the person who really needs to be reading this wouldn’t recognize themselves if handed the mirror.
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